What It’s Like To Be A Dominatrix In London

In a sadomasochistic encounter, a woman physically or psychologically dominates her boyfriend. a trans woman who works as an internet sex worker and identifies as a Dominatrice, emphasizing that many non-binary, gender-queer, or woman-aligned people also identify as Dominatrices

However, if you don’t know what a “sadomasochistic encounter” is, that term is about as useful as looking up if you have an STI on Google. According to Shakti, a sadomasochistic experience is “when someone assumes a more subservient role while exploring kink and BDSM.”

According to Lola Jean, Dominatrix and sex educator, there is a distinction between lifestyle Dominatrix and professional Dominatrix. Some people like to play the dominant role 24 hours a day, seven days a week, which means they need someone to serve them even when they’re not in the bedroom or dungeon. These are Dominatrices of a certain way of life.

Being a Dominatrix is a professional position for some, such as those interviewed for this article. Shakti states, “When you’re a professional, you’re fluent in controlling within a kink or BDSM environment.” “People come to you for that skill set, and there is a monetary exchange. It’s a sex job.”

“Dominatrix is the word you’ll see most commonly in media,” Jean explains, “but it’s not usually the word most folks use.” Most people refer to themselves as Domme or Dom instead of “Dominatrix.” If they’re professionals, they can use ProDomme/ProDomme. (programs are the focus of the rest of this essay.)

Who Visits a Dominatrix for Professional Purposes?

You should be aware that there is no such thing as a single sort of client. A program can be hired by people of all ages, genders, orientations, and races.

“My clients range from top-level CEOs, surgeons, and lawyers to couples, queer women, trans people, and blue-collar individuals simply looking to explore and expand their sexuality, submissiveness, and connection with their most authentic selves,” says Ashley Paige, a professional Dominatrix based in New York City.

Working With A Dominatrix Has Its Advantages

Do you have any idea why someone would hire a Dominatrix? There are several causes for this. “Some people come to us because they saw ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ and want to try BDSM for the first time,” Shakti explains. “Hiring a professional is one of the best and safest methods to begin exploring BDSM, kinks, or fetishes,” she believes. That’s because there are safe(r) ways to do things like a whip, flog, spank, choke, or slap someone, which only professionals are aware of, but which a partner may not. Plus, a pro may establish “a non-physical safe environment to explore your wants,” as Jean describes it, in a manner that a spouse (especially a not-so-loving partner) may not be able to.

Others seek for ProDommes in order to live out a specific fantasy. “Sometimes clients will have developed an entire screenplay with extremely exact phrases they want me to recite during a scene,” Shakti explains. Alternatively, they may ask for a particularly specific sex act. Clients will employ a specialist who specializes in that act in the latter case (yep, ProDommes have specialties). Paige, for example, specializes in “sadomasochism, behavior modification, sensual-strict domination, impact play, and corporal punishment, electro-play, rough body play, beat downs, primal play, full toilet training, sensory deprivation and overload, slave training, and tantric kink with a focus on breath work and catharsis…” Poop, food, sploshing, tickle-torture, sensation play, humiliation, nipple-torture, medical play, cock and ball torture, nipple torture, impact play, and pegging are some of the other specializations.

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